How long have you been putting off taking an anger class? How many times have you decided you needed help to control your anger - and then done nothing about it? Maybe you're having trouble sleeping because of the stresses in your life. Maybe your anger problem is affecting your relationships and causing damage right now that may take a long time to heal. It could be that it's time to take a step towards recovery.
Here are a few suggestions to get you started:
- When you feel a loss of control coming on, focus on the fact that the situation you're in will pass. Think about the long term instead of the short term frustration you're in.
- If you have some warning that a situation may be stressful, prepare for it by saving up your mental energy. That's right - our minds like our bodies have only a certain amount of energy and if you've recently been practicing self control over another issue, it won't leave much, if any for the next thing that comes your way. Which leads us to the next tip...
- Pick your battles. It's cliche... and it's true. Ask yourself in a situation if it's really that important that you get your way on this - or are you just indulging your need to be right. I get that way all the time so I know where you're coming from.
- Get some exercise. It could be something as simple as a walk. A walk in nature especially can be good for the soul. Or it could be something strenuous: a good run, or maybe kick-boxing or hitting a punching bag for a while. The more you put into a workout the better it can be for your mood.
These are all good tips for anger management. On top of these it would also be a good idea to consider taking an anger class. Finding good solid long term solutions to your anger issues will help your relationships.
It will also help your health. Anger has been associated with all sorts of health problems. Every time you lose your cool you're shortening your life - and taking a chance of having a serious heart episode on the spot.